Before Marriage

STOP and THINK about these things BEFORE you get married.
TIPS ON CHOOSING THE RIGHT PERSON.
Look at your partner, and while you go through this list, pretend. Get your mind TRULY into the scenarios exactly as they are described. YOU ARE NOT ALLOWED ANY YEAH BUT'S, NO THAT IS NOT GOING TO HAPPEN OR IT WON'T BE THAT WAY, NOT FOR THIS EXERCISE. Also, think about 10 years ago. THAT is a DECADE. Now count out how many of those you have left to your life. Think about the AMOUNT OF TIME, AND BE AWARE THAT YOU ARE MAKING THIS DECISION FOR HOWEVER MANY YOU HAVE LEFT (AVERAGE LIFE SPAN IS 70-90 YEARS, FOR THIS PURPOSE YOU WILL LIVE TO 90) SO you will thik of that date, and think, if you are 30, the time that I am committing to this person under these circumstances is 6 times that amount of time.
1. Your partner has been in a terrible accident, if it is a HE, he has become PERMANANTLY impotent. if it is a SHE, she has shattered her pelvis, and the damage has permanently rendered her unable to have sex. Their face has been badly burned, and as such, their looks are no longer there, AND oral sex is out of the question.
DO you still choose your partner for life?
2. Your partner has lost their job. They will never work again.
3. You do not have children, and you are not married. There is no "my child's father" or "I promised" to fall back on. In other words, whatever things you tell yourself, I have kids with this person so I am committed, or I made a vow so I am committed, get rid of ALL of that. Do you still want your partner for life, 6 times the time frame of your decade, also with the above conditions?
4. The man or woman that your heart secretly wants to find and fall in love with, your dream partner, physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, your imaginary other half that you secretly hope crosses your path and you and them fall in love, WILL cross your path and fall in love with you. Not might, WILL. Do you still choose your partner, forsaking your dream lover, WITH ALL OF THESE CONDITIONS STILL IN PLACE?
5. Everything that you do not like about your partner, all of the little irritations, the things that annoy you or piss you off, they WILL NOT CHANGE, PERIOD. THESE THINGS ARE SET IN STONE, AND THEY WILL NOT CHANGE AT ALL FOREVER. IF ANYTHING, THESE NEGATIVE QUIRKS WILL GET WORSE OVER TIME.
Do you still choose your partner, with all of the above in place?
To sum this up, your partners financial value, job title, everything he or she owns materially is GONE, PERMANENTLY. Their looks, and ability to have sex are gone, permanently. You have no vow, promise to God or each other, no kids to bind you, ONLY love. Your dream partner will walk into your life and you will have to choose, your partner or them. Your partner will never change ANYTHING you don't like forever. DO you still choose your partner, for 6 times (for a 30 year old) the amount of time from your decade mark? IF for any of the above reasons you answered NO, OR you said YES because that will never happen, in your mind OR in your heart, YOU DO NOT LOVE YOUR PARTNER FOR THE RIGHT REASONS, AND YOU ARE A SITTING DUCK, YOUR RELATIONSHIP WILL NOT LAST, AND IF IT DOES, IT WILL LAST BECAUSE YOU AND HIM ARE SETTLING FOR EACH OTHER.